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How to not be Discouraged by Other’s Success

Logging on social media has been incredibly annoying for me for at a year now. I scroll through my feeds and see people getting their dream jobs, reaching their goals and having to make new vision boards because they’ve surpassed their magazine cut-outs. …And sometimes i get really discouraged by their success.

Yeah, yeah, I can hear you screaming at me about “FOMO” and “good for you” but this feeling is a little different. It’s not fear as much as the utter despair that what you’re doing isn’t significant enough. This post is a little different as this is something I’m really working on and still trying to figure out, but I figured we could work this out together.

Pick a Motto?

Switching your mind off of negative mode as soon as possible is very important if you’d like to avoid the pit of despair. Mottos can help with that. At first, it’s a bit odd and maybe even creepy to mumble over and over to yourself but it will distract you nonetheless. A few times, you’ll even think about what you’re saying and it’ll kick your butt into gear.

Avoid/Filter 

In high school, Facebook was cool, interactive and dare I say it fun. Now, not so much. So I rarely log in. Avoidance isn’t a cure, but it can help reduce self doubt episodes quite a bit.

Learn From Them?

One of the last things anyone wants to do is go to the person who’s done what they couldn’t and ask for help. But it works. It’s rare that anyone wants to share their exact method, but good enough friends , colleagues, etc most likely won’t mind giving you a nudge in the right direction. Take their tips and use them.

Remind yourself who you are

Face it: you’re not them. Whatever great thing happened didn’t happen to you. It doesn’t mean it’s not going to though. Try to remind yourself of what you’ve done and what you’re doing. Harping on anyone else isn’t going to make you any better. Don’t be the one to hold yourself back. 

That’s all I have for now, but as always I’m still learning. How to you handle your brain when it tries to get discouraged by other people’s success?

Sinceriously, 

(Se)rena

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